While writing THE HEART TO FORGIVE, I came up with a list of questions that I ask both men and women attending my presentations. It's like a mini quiz. It's personal. I question people on their health habits, on their practice - or lack - of meditation, on the most inspirational books they've read. I will be sharing some of the comments received in upcoming newsletters. Here is a sample mini quiz on intimate relationships.
Answer Truthfully: You are the only one who knows the answers! It's helping you take inventory.
If you have ever entered into a sexual relationship with a partner other than your spouse or significant other, did you
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Have you shared with your spouse or significant other what your wildest fantasy is? If not, why not?
If you could change one single thing in your intimate relationship, what would that be? (level of communication, frequency of sexual relations, more equitable distribution of chores around the house, level of romance, amount of fun)
Look at your answers carefully. Try to figure out how you 'score.' Observe your relationship and if you dream of making yours the Ultimate Relationship, send an email to mimi@thehappiestwoman.net and put Ultimate in the subject line. I will send you 25 suggestions on how to light your partner's fire!
Answer Truthfully: You are the only one who knows the answers! It's helping you take inventory.
If you have ever entered into a sexual relationship with a partner other than your spouse or significant other, did you
- Reassure yourself that he/she would never find out about it and kept it to yourself?
(How did that make you feel inside?) - Count on his/her forgiveness and understanding, said you were sorry and move on?
(How much hurt did that inflict on you and your partner? How different is the relationship since?) - Feel no guilt whatsoever, and believe that you would forgive and forget if the roles were reversed?
(How long did it take to realize you might have erred?)
- Not know anything about your partner's escapade?
- Find out on your own and choose to not face the facts by ignoring and never discussing it?
- Be told by your spouse or significant other as early as possible during their affair?
If you could change one single thing in your intimate relationship, what would that be? (level of communication, frequency of sexual relations, more equitable distribution of chores around the house, level of romance, amount of fun)
Look at your answers carefully. Try to figure out how you 'score.' Observe your relationship and if you dream of making yours the Ultimate Relationship, send an email to mimi@thehappiestwoman.net and put Ultimate in the subject line. I will send you 25 suggestions on how to light your partner's fire!